This is a message is to all my sistahs who find themselves in a pattern of falling into the same type of relationships time after time.

Often when we meet a man that we think we are interested in, we immediately and automatically begin to change ourselves into what we think they want us to be.  We conform to their ways, to their ideas of what the perfect woman should be like. We forget who we are, what we stand for, what we want for ourselves in the relationship. We lose ourselves as we become more and more enveloped in him. Believe me, I’ve been there myself a time or three. LOL! I’d lost so much of myself that I forgot how beautiful, strong, smart, and independent I am. I became his robot and convinced myself that I was happy in doing so. After ending my last relationship of 5 years, I decided to take a “just do me break” I had to take time to check myself. Ladies, this is a very good thing to do. You see I didn’t walk around moping, blaming, or being angry. I found a way to turn a negative into a positive by spending time learning, understanding and loving ME. I realized that I had to know and love myself before I could enter into another relationship, give love and be loved. I realized that if I stay true to, love and just be comfortable with who I am,  then all of those things would flow from the inside out and enable me to enter into a relationship the same way I wish to remain throughout…….Loving myself, loving him, loving us!

Note:  if we are in a negative state of mind… our internal magnet attracts the same type of man. When we are genuinely positive and we love and respect ourselves, we will attract the same. If you are good to yourself and you respect yourself anything less is just unacceptable.

**No disrespect to my fellas out there, I know sometimes the shoe is on the other foot in the relationship, I just wanted to shout this one out to my sistahs. Much love to ya!