Is it fair to make your new man/woman suffer for what your ex put you through?

Even though you most likely answered no, you have probably done this a few times and may still be doing it without realizing it. Let’s face it, when you’ve been hurt and heart- broken it’s not easy to pick up the pieces and just move on so that by the time you get into the next relationship you’ve forgiven and forgotten. Sometimes we’ve forgiven but it’s very rare that we’ve forgotten! If your last relationship ended because your partner cheated on you time and time again or whatever your particular case may be, you enter into the next relationship with an assuming, expecting, and accusing attitude almost killing all chances for survival before spending time really getting know one another and making determinations according to what you know and feel of this person and not the bitter feelings of your past.  We can’t expect the new partner to be attached to our hip, or call us every hour to check in regarding their whereabouts.  We shouldn’t make them feel as if they have to defend or prove themselves every time they walk through the door.  THIS IS NOT FAIR!  As hard as it might be at times we must find a way to chalk the experiences of the past up to learning experiences and use it as a stepping stone of strength if I may say.  If we take the sometime for ourselves as I stated in my previous writing in between relationships, It should help us to enter into the next relationship with an open heart and mind and vibe off what we feel in the present not from  what we felt in the past.

Do your best to give of yourself, love freely, genuinely and think positive and if for whatever reason things don’t work out continue to love and be true 2 u!

HAPPY NEW YEAR!