I have question for my sisters out there…..Do you have a friend that makes you want to just slap the shit out of them sometimes?

I mean I love all of my girls and have been there through thick and thin and will continue to be there in anyway I can for each one of them…..but damn! I know I’m not alone when I say at times you just want to reach out and slap the shit out of one of them.  They ask you for your advice (which I say must be for venting purposes) because they end doing whatever they want to do anyway, which is usually completely the opposite of your advise. They cry on your shoulder, complaining about that man for the tenth time regarding the same damn thing and for the tenth time they say “that’s it, I’m not going through this anymore…..but what do they do?  I know somebody can answer that question with me THEY GO BACK, HE GIVES THEM A LITTLE LOVING AND SHE’S RIGHT BACK IN THE SAME SHIT, AND UNDER HIS SPELL AGAIN! LOL But we still keep on being that loving friend, gritting our teeth to hold back that slap. I guess they feel the same way about us sometimes as well, but not often with me, because I’d want to be slapped if I did this. LOL For me it’s like this, if I know that I’m going to do what I want to do then I don’t ask for advice, I just do the damn thing and if there is an issue I need advice on then I ask for it and most of the time I follow the advice given. However if it’s advice that I don’t agree with for whatever reason then I say so and we move on. As far as me giving advice, now it really depends on the situation. Something simple and in general sure I’m there but when it comes to relationships, I  tend to move according to the direction I see that particular friend leaning because I want them to take some time and listen to their heart, and truly evaluate the situation and simply make a decision as to if this is what they really want for themselves. The reason I do this is because only they can determine when they’ve had enough of a particular situation and NO MATTER what you say, if they have not had enough they are going to continue in the same direction.  I can only express my feelings and that’s it. I don’t even say “what I would do is” anymore because I’ve learned that even though we have a lot in common and we have been friends for many years and probably know more about one another than our families, WE ARE STILL TWO TOTALLY DIFFERENT PERSONS and we may or may not react to situations in the same manner.

Just a little something that was on my mind that I wanted to express!

Remember to always Betrue2u J

I’m back! Man was it tough being away so long, not being able to write or read. I’m finished with school for the moment, so I’m going to take all the advantage I can with posting and reading until it’s time to return to school J

I’ve come across so many interesting people at school and have had so many interesting conversations that it was tough deciding what to write about.  After a week of debating with myself, I decided to upon this……

“You Can Turn it Around”

In several conversations I found that both men and women let their past dictate their actions in the present. I learned that some women, who have been abused mentally, physically, verbally or even sexually in their earlier years, go on to believe that this is just how it is and how it’s supposed to be. More than you know feel that being abused is a form of love. Men who have witnessed their fathers cussing out or beating their mothers grow to believe that this how they should show their wives love.  This really saddened me. Our young ladies are leaning and depending on no good men and accepting their abuse because they feel that this is what they have to do to get help with bills that they can’t pay on their own and also due to fear of having to look for another man and start a new relationship.  PLEASE STOP AND TURN IT AROUND. You do not have to live your present life according to your past. Men love your girlfriends and wives as if they were queens. If you get upset or angry about something and I know we all get that way, walk away and find something that you know calms you until you are able to react in a more rational manner. Talk it out, don’t fight it out! Ladies, the same goes for you. Stop picking until you’re angry or until you anger him. Find a way to cool your heels and then talk it out. Don’t let being beat, cussed at and disrespected be the source of love in your relationship.  Don’t let his money and your needs keep you bound. Do what you have to do to get yourself on your feet so you can handle your own. To all my men and women out there who might be experiencing something similar………Turn It Around.

Always remember to be true 2 u J