I’m back! Man was it tough being away so long, not being able to write or read. I’m finished with school for the moment, so I’m going to take all the advantage I can with posting and reading until it’s time to return to school J

I’ve come across so many interesting people at school and have had so many interesting conversations that it was tough deciding what to write about.  After a week of debating with myself, I decided to upon this……

“You Can Turn it Around”

In several conversations I found that both men and women let their past dictate their actions in the present. I learned that some women, who have been abused mentally, physically, verbally or even sexually in their earlier years, go on to believe that this is just how it is and how it’s supposed to be. More than you know feel that being abused is a form of love. Men who have witnessed their fathers cussing out or beating their mothers grow to believe that this how they should show their wives love.  This really saddened me. Our young ladies are leaning and depending on no good men and accepting their abuse because they feel that this is what they have to do to get help with bills that they can’t pay on their own and also due to fear of having to look for another man and start a new relationship.  PLEASE STOP AND TURN IT AROUND. You do not have to live your present life according to your past. Men love your girlfriends and wives as if they were queens. If you get upset or angry about something and I know we all get that way, walk away and find something that you know calms you until you are able to react in a more rational manner. Talk it out, don’t fight it out! Ladies, the same goes for you. Stop picking until you’re angry or until you anger him. Find a way to cool your heels and then talk it out. Don’t let being beat, cussed at and disrespected be the source of love in your relationship.  Don’t let his money and your needs keep you bound. Do what you have to do to get yourself on your feet so you can handle your own. To all my men and women out there who might be experiencing something similar………Turn It Around.

Always remember to be true 2 u J